At what age does one starts to confront others? Can the first cry by a new born be classified as a confrontation? Can our genetics decide if we are more confrontational than others? There is mention of 'Prakruti' in Ayurveda which explains how our physical and mental nature is designed by our genes. Blame it on my son's genetic codes that were derived from me. He is as heavily opinionated and confrontational as me!
All these questions arise in my mind when I , for the first time, felt that my only son has been 'confronting' me for some time. I wondered if it is even a good idea to use this as a blog topic especially when the aim of this blog is to write about the joys of life.
Joy can not be fully understood without the company of difficulties and challenges in life. So, I think 'confrontation' can be blogged here.
Mentally, the 'teenage' begins even before the thirteen years of age. I recognise the change in emotions in my child when he throws 'temper tantrums' that are a result of confrontation with me. It is a big challenge to me as a mother as to deal with the ocean of emotions that my child is surfing.
Going back to knowing the duties of a mother, what is it that is my duty to my child? I questioned my self if there is anything I could 'teach' him to make him feel better. Well, there is no such thing as 'teaching' others. I have strong opinions that no one can 'teach' anything to anyone, so the word 'Teacher' is an unnecessary word in English. Instead, I believe in some one being a 'guide ' to others to help them learn for themselves.
I can 'guide' my son and show him a path which may lead him to his betterment, but I can in no way 'teach' him anything. Universe and human mind are one and the same with mysteries. I myself have not demystified anything leave alone 'teaching' somebody.
In olden days, 'Gurus' were a much revered people. They were the humble guide to enlightenment. I believe in 'Gurus'. As a mother, I think it is my duty to talk to my son about a 'Guru' that can guide him through and hopefully my duty ends there or is it my Maya to imagine that I am duty bound? Hard to find the answers when I am confronting myself!
All these questions arise in my mind when I , for the first time, felt that my only son has been 'confronting' me for some time. I wondered if it is even a good idea to use this as a blog topic especially when the aim of this blog is to write about the joys of life.
Joy can not be fully understood without the company of difficulties and challenges in life. So, I think 'confrontation' can be blogged here.
Mentally, the 'teenage' begins even before the thirteen years of age. I recognise the change in emotions in my child when he throws 'temper tantrums' that are a result of confrontation with me. It is a big challenge to me as a mother as to deal with the ocean of emotions that my child is surfing.
Going back to knowing the duties of a mother, what is it that is my duty to my child? I questioned my self if there is anything I could 'teach' him to make him feel better. Well, there is no such thing as 'teaching' others. I have strong opinions that no one can 'teach' anything to anyone, so the word 'Teacher' is an unnecessary word in English. Instead, I believe in some one being a 'guide ' to others to help them learn for themselves.
I can 'guide' my son and show him a path which may lead him to his betterment, but I can in no way 'teach' him anything. Universe and human mind are one and the same with mysteries. I myself have not demystified anything leave alone 'teaching' somebody.
In olden days, 'Gurus' were a much revered people. They were the humble guide to enlightenment. I believe in 'Gurus'. As a mother, I think it is my duty to talk to my son about a 'Guru' that can guide him through and hopefully my duty ends there or is it my Maya to imagine that I am duty bound? Hard to find the answers when I am confronting myself!
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